Unstructured Thoughts - What Are You Thinking Now?

Doctorthingit · #1 07-25-2005

Please read before deciding there's no reason for you to post a reply.

I really don't post as much at message boards as I used to. And there's a reason for that. I get distracted, very easily. I'm just the kind of person with thoughts that often aren't structured. They just happen. For instance, if I'm worried about something, I usually don't want to discuss it but I'd like to just state it. Black and white, clear as crystal, once and have done with it. Unless of course someone else could or has been able to relate to that thought and wants to add to it. I don't want to start a dozen short posts about abstract thoughts just because when I have them I want to discuss them very much. It would be more sensible to, in a sense, have a graveyard for them where I could bury them as they arise.

This simply would eliminate worthless topics which no one would reply to and there's no worry about this topic getting off-topic because that's how it starts. It's not about establishing a pattern of off-topic topics. But for instance... I'm getting a headache right now, so I'd like to elaborate more on this post later on. But I wanted to try and create a post for random thoughts anyone were to have. In case the person having them really felt like sharing them.

I don't have one right now, but I could spill my guts about a lot of little things to other people that mean something to me.

Zombie-F · #2 07-25-2005

Good idea.

Another forum I post to has "weekly" thread. A thread that's opened each week for such posts, perhaps I will steal that idea and use it here and we can have a weekly thread for these kind of "unstructured thoughts". Sound good to you?

By the way, that idea is from http://www.halloweenforums.com

Doctorthingit · #3 07-25-2005

Sounds perfect. I never participated in the Weekly Thread. Now I'm thinking I should have at least checked it out. But I've been at several forums which had the same thing. Only if I were to post something, it would be something that either bummed me out or something I was really excited about. This is hardly my Seinfeld idea. In case no one was interested in what I was saying they would have the warning of knowing everything that was coming in the post by the subject heading or first short paragraph.

For instance, this one ends with a question, though not poll material.

I had an experience this afternoon where I was spending time with a distant friend. And everytime we're together, it's all about what she wants to listen to. I suggested listening to a few things she liked in the time we've spent together over the past few months. Now I realize full-well why she and I are this distant, she's selfish as all hell. It's all about what she finds weird, we can't watch it. What she says "she don't know", she doesn't want to hear. Ever. Well, that narrows the field of what we might listen to or watch while we're together, so I never return her phone calls. I visit often, though I realize I should do less of that.

Does anyone find themselves in a relationship where they feel this much like getting out?

RAXL · #4 07-25-2005

Not really the same as yours Doc, but along a similar vein.
I was friends with this one kid from about 4th grade through the end of high school. Figure 8 years or so. That's a pretty long time to know someone at that point in your life. And it got to the point where we had literally done just about every thing we could do. I mean we hung out almost every day.
In high school I started hanging out with other kids. By the time we graduated I was doing more with them than with my other friend. Because I was doing new things, with new people.
It got to the point with my old friend, where he didn't WANT to try anything new, or even do any of the old things we used to do, and have fun with.
We just kinda stopped hanging out after a while.
I don't know. I feel bad about it, but what can you do? People just move apart .

Zombie-F · #5 07-25-2005

I've been there too Thingit.

I had a friend (Raxl will know exactly who he is) who I hung out with from about the 7th grade up until around the time I was about 22 or so. We used to do alot together, but he fell into this pattern of only wanting to do a few different things and if you didn't want to do those things with him, he wouldn't bother with you. He was also terribly selfish to a point where he'd come over, eat all your snacks, drink your soda, etc and then just leave.

He turned into a real user. Only wanting to be around if he needed something from you. Eventually, I just stopped calling him. I used to hear from him every now and again whenever he needed something, but because I wouldn't help him out any more, he just kind of stopped calling.

I think he finally got the point when my brother bumped into him after my wedding and told him I was married. Realizing he wasn't invited to the wedding must have sent some kind of a message to him about how the friendship was looked at by me now.

lipstikgrl · #6 07-25-2005

i have one friend that I met in kindergarten and we are still friends, but other than her friends come and go. i had a very good friend all through high school and a little after. we were very close but people grow apart. she chose to do what she wanted to in life and i chose to do my thing and they did not mesh together. so we stopped hangin. i do not feel i lost a friend, if she called me in need i would be there for her but i would not call her up and ask her to go out. i think it happens to everyone as you get older and grow as a person.

SuFiKitten77 · #7 07-26-2005

When I was in second grade, I became friends with someone .. and over the years we became best friends and were inseperable. Our senior year in highschool she started dating this guy who didn't care for me and she started spending less and less time with me. Life does that, I do understand. Over the summer after graduation my mom became really sick and needed a kidney transplant. I had just lost my brother the year before, and this was a difficult thing. Luckily my aunt was a match, and she had a succesful transplant. Over the next year we still didnt talk much, I tried calling, emailing, and so on .. but she was always too busy. I had a baby boy, and I almost died .. she still couldn't pull herself away from her guy to be there for me. Though I was hurt, being who I am I still was there for her when he cheated on her and broke her heart. When my mom passed away from cancer and she still kept her distance, that was the last straw for me. We still talk very occasionally, but things will never be the same. Life makes you grow up .. and sometimes it opens your eyes to how people really are. That's just how it goes

Doctorthingit · #8 07-26-2005

7:18 thought, one I have whenever I'm on a horror/Halloween board (are there others? Maybe a Halloween dot com or something...?)

I love pop music. Good pop music touches your soul. Sure a lot of it is synthetic, overpolished, shallow. And that brings down it's reputation. But I love good pop music. I sing to it, I dance to it, I've loved it since I was a kid. I know it's not exactly chiq for horror fans to like anything but rock music. But I love pop, among other kinds of music horror fans don't exactly gravitate toward. I usually listen to music that touches me anyway, music I can connect to emotionally, a sound I can really unwind to. Something that can really help melt the tension in me. Something I can scream my soul to.

Doctorthingit · #9 07-26-2005

Can you believe this shit? I went to my local town Pizza Place and ordered: Pizza, Grinder, and enough orders of chicken fingers to feed 5 people. Taking a look at the chicken fingers, these things are burnt almost completely black. Called the place up and explained that these things are uneatable, after tasting one, all you taste is the burn. Well I didn't call up, my gal pal did. She says if we go there tomorrow when they open, we should be able to get our money back. I told her we should really save some of the chicken to show them we're not fucking around. No guarrantee whoever burnt them in the first place is still working tomorrow. She fed it all to the dogs. Poor damn dogs! If you stripped the actual chicken meat, you would have some decently spicy chicken meat. Which the dogs would go nuts for. But the crisp on the outside is thick, too thick to salvage anything of it.

Doctorthingit · #10 07-28-2005

I got the money back for those chicken fingers.

Right now, I hate film-talk dot com. First of all, those people are SO BORING! Second, the moderators are freaks. One guy has a ranking level upon how close a person is to getting banned from the site and I'm up to 67%, it's called the Warn Meter. Yet the funny thing is, NOBODY FUCKING WARNED ME before it first notched up to 33%. Then suddenly I get suspended for a whole fucking week and nobody told me why. When the week was up and I finally was able to actually view the forum, one of the moderators sent me a private message telling me I used the word "church" and that that automatically gets you a one-week suspension... CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT SHIT?!!! There was absolutely NO mention of that anywhere in the Official Rules. Now, the other moderator I butted heads with asked me a question. When I gave him a long and VERY INTELLIGENT answer, the fact that I actually knew what I was talking about rubbed him the wrong way and he closes the thread. Which of course now makes it impossible for me to say publically that I think he's a big baby and that I'm so sorry I outsmarted him. And everyone at that board keeps claiming that I'm insulting and condescending them when they have no idea what I'm saying. They won't even try and ask. They are basically trying to make it look as though I'm starting trouble to whatever moderator has the power to suspend me again.